Frustrated

I know it shouldn't bother me, I shouldn't care what people think, but it really bothers me when people say they don't like the name we picked out. We obviously love the name or we wouldn't have chosen it for our daughter, so why would someone tell us that they don't like it? Do they think we'll change our minds because they don't like it? Are they trying to hurt our feelings? I just don't get it. My mom taught me that if I didn't have anything nice to say, not to say anything at all...yet she is constantly saying mean things! She's made it pretty clear that she's not Sailor's biggest fan and now says she doesn't like the name. When I told it to her yesterday, she said "ick" in response to the middle name. Why would she say that?! She said that the first name was pretty, but then today said that it doesn't sound very feminine. What? How is it not feminine? I just don't get it. For those that don't know, the name we picked is Havyn (or Haven, not sure on the spelling yet) Elaine. Elaine is Sailor's Mom's middle name. Princess has my middle name, which is also my Mom's middle name. We didn't really name her after me and my Mom, but I did love that she had the same middle name as both of us. I didn't set out to give my daughters names with meaning, my goal was to give them names that I love. But, if it works out that way, I think it's great. I really like both of my girls' first and middle names. I would never choose either of their middle names as first names, but think they're a great fit for the first name. I don't know why it bothers me so much, but it really does. Why can't she just not say anything at all? Why can't she just say "It'll take some getting used to" instead of saying she doesn't like it? I think it's a generational thing. I obviously am not going to like the same things as my parents and their generation...but that doesn't mean that what I like is bad or what they like is bad, we just have different tastes. I'm really bummed about it, I wish I could just tell her how I feel...maybe I should email her since I'm so unconfrontational. Sorry for boring y'all, just felt like I needed to get that off my chest.